Domestic violence is mostly perpetrated by men towards their women and or children in a typical household. But unfortunately, in Central Kenya and most homes involving Kikuyu couples, the reverse is actually true. It has emerged that Kikuyu men face frequent beatings at home at the hands of their “loving” wives than any other tribe in Kenya. This can be due to a variety of reasons. From a need by the wife to exert her dominance over the Kikuyu men to beating their husbands in an attempt to “soften” them up so that these Kikuyu men can provide the family with necessary financial up keeps. The Kikuyu women are at the top of the pecking order in their households.
But people will ask why Uhuru Kenyatta‘s tribesmen have weak men when it comes to domestic politics? “Wakikuyu wanaume, tulikosea wapi jameni”? Lamented Robert Gichui in Murang’a county.
Below is a video of a Kikuyu woman “softening up” one of the Kikuyu men in her life. I would like to warn you, if you are sensitive to domestic violence, you will find this video humiliating and disturbing as it involves Uhuru Kenyatta’s tribesman being assaulting by one of the beautiful Kikuyu ladies out there. Although people say beauty is on the eyes of the beholder, most good looking ladies come from Central Kenya.
Here is the video:
In the above video, the woman beats the said man while the man submissively asks her what she wants. The woman retorts that she wants the man to pay rent and buy food for the family. Before the beating is over, minjiminji spits on her meek Kikuyu man as if to take the humiliation to the next level! In normal life, people spit at stinky things like a dead animal carcass, not so nice smelling human waste, etc.
So violent are Kikuyu women that even some European nations warned their expatriates from romantically being involved with womens from Central Kenya. This of course followed the violent assault and eventually murder of Dutch-Kenyan Tob Cohen at the hands of his wife Sarah Wairimu in September of 2019.
Mr. Cohen’s body was discovered in a septic tank in his home compound in Kitisuri, Nairobi after being reported missing two months early. Sarah Cohen was arrested and charged with murder, a case that is still meandering through the corridors of justice in backlogged Kenyan courts. Before he was murdered, Mr. Cohen reported several incidences of violent behavior directed at him by his wife. This forced him to file for divorce in an attempt to escape away from his abusive spouse.
Bungoma Senator who is also Ford Kenya Party leader Mr. Moses Wetangula is one of the most high profile politicians in Kenya to have been a victim of domestic violence. In 2016, there was confirmed reports in the media that Moses Wetangula was battered by his wife in his home in Karen, Nairobi and had to seek medical attention in a nearby hospital. One will wonder: But Mr. Wetangula is a Luhya statesman? Normally Luhya women are known to be peace-loving and less violent compared to their colleagues in Central province. What is going on here? Well, that is actually true. But hey, Mr. Wetangula’s wife is actually from Central Kenya! Her name is Anne Wacheke Ngugi. She simply goes by the name Anne Wetangula as she is legally married to her politician husband.
In 2019, the Daily Post caught up with Senator Wetangula and asked him to confirm or deny reports that he has been a victim of domestic violence three years prior. Mr. Wetangula said that as an African man, he believes family is sacred and holy and hence he did not want to comment about the matter. “Family is family”, retorted the senator.
Most people tend to blame Kikuyu men for their wayward sisters, mothers and wives. But how did they get in this mess? To understand the family dynamics of a Kikuyu household, one needs to examine the Kikuyu culture in its entirety. While there is some grains of truth to blame Kikuyu men who are drunkards and deadbeat fathers who neglect the needs of their children and families, the most plausible explanation of domestic violence facing Kikuyu men has to do with the Kikuyu culture itself.
It is worth noting that the Kikuyu culture has historically been matriarchal in which women are leaders while men are followers. Also, of all tribes in Kenya, only among the Kikuyus are clans ascribed female names. Sounds strange but this is actually true. The domination of Kikuyu men by their women has been going on since time immemorial and predates the precolonial period. Funny that the entire Kikuyu community is called “House of Mumbi”. Loosely translated as a house of a woman. You got that right!
This may explain why most of the single mothers in Kenya are actually Kikuyu women. It has been widely believed that the Kikuyu women face a challenge of securing a husband as most men do not want to marry them due to these ladies’ violent temperament. And because the children born in this arrangements do not have a loving family atmosphere dominated by a highly esteemed father, they turn into crime as a means to survive. I am not a tribal person but I can tell you that nearly 33% of most violent criminals in Kenya belong to the Kikuyu community. Some people will say, hey, statistically speaking, the Kikuyu people are the majority tribe in the country and hence will naturally make the lion’s share of criminals. While this is true, some critics say it is happening because the Kikuyu leaders such as Uhuru Kenyatta, Peter Kenneth and Martha Karua have failed to act as role models to the young men and women in their communities.