Citizen TV anchor Lilian Muli lambasted men who were against feminism as being old school and bent on finding their mothers’ replica on the women they date. On a video she posted on her social media, Lilian Muli said that just because our mothers were expected to behave a certain way does not mean modern ladies should act like their ancestors in marriage.
Lilian Muli acknowledged that it will be tough for most university educated women not to air their opinion in the house beside their boyfriends and husbands. She said that the expectations that women should shut up and put up with whatever men decide is absurd and therefore women should be allowed to speak their opinion about everything just like their male counterparts.
On the video, Lilian Muli says that she wanted to talk about what she heard some men say about toxic feminism during men’s conference. She said that she has a strong personality and likes to talk back. “What exactly is toxic feminism”, she quipped. Ms Muli said that after being through campus and sometimes even more educated than the men, she will not shut up and not have an opinion in the house.
“After all the years our parents put us into our education and even after we sat in campus probably took the same courses and as a chick even aced it more than you as a guy, I am not gonna sit back and let you watch me not have an opinion”, She quipped. “How will that even work?”, she asked.
“It is a conversation that is of course valid. Because guys believe that when they were growing up their mothers didn’t talk a certain way to their fathers, their mothers cooked a certain way, dressed a certain way, were home at a certain time. It is as if the guys are looking for their mothers in us. And that is a good thing because I have sons.
But I certainly hope their are not looking for me in their wives. Because that will be unfair. That will be a lot of pressure. Because the way your mom loves you is not the way I can possibly love you”, she added.
Lilian Muli talking about toxic feminism rings alarm bells on the minds of his fans. This is because in January this year, she talked about her experience being in a toxic relationship. Back then, she admitted that she had been in two emotionally abusive relationships that did not work for her.
‘’I’ve totally stolen this coz so many people need to read this many of us stay in dysfunctional relationships because we are afraid of being alone we even get used to the abuse. Don’t allow yourself to become a victim you have OPTIONS! Walk away.’’ She posted.
“And when you walk away there is no looking back I walked away i shudder to think what would have happened if I didn’t.” She added.
Lilian Muli married Moses Njuguna Kanene in 2009. Ms. Muli filed for divorce on January 7, 2016, at the Chief Magistrate’s Court in Milimani, Nairobi. She cited adultery, cruelty and desertion.
In the divorce case No 19 of 2016, the sexy TV vixen said her husband was adulterous and had cheated on her with several women before abandoning her.
“To compound the said cruelty, the respondent deserted the matrimonial home, and has been living an adulterous life and committing adultery with various women and the marriage has irretrievably broken down,” read an excerpt from her petition.
Lilian Muli was married to Moses Njuguna Kanene for more than 7 years. They had a son together from that relationship.
In 2018, she dumped Jared Ombongi whom she married after the termination of her previous marriage was annulled by the Kiambu court. It is unclear when exactly she married Jared, but since the divorce with Mr. Kanene happened in 2016, then one can say Ms. Muli’s second marriage lasted less than 24 months.
Apparently, Lilian Muli’s second ex-husband (Mr. Ombongi) had a very shady past. This includes him engaging in bigamy as he was married to two American women at the same time in an attempt to obtain American citizenship.
For example in 1993, court documents show that he was married to Heather Mae Rice. A year later in 1994, while still married to Rice, Ombongi married Layle Marie Kobow.
Kobow’s testimony in court, saying her marriage was arranged as a financial deal, was one of the grounds that led to Jared losing his case of trying to obtain U.S. citizenship.
Kobow and Jared divorced in 1997 and in 2001, he ended his second marriage with Rice.
The last effort to acquire US citizenship was made through Morris whom Jared had married in 2001. This attempt also failed.
With these kinds of men, it is not surprising that Lilian Muli is feeling frustrated and unable to connect with men for a successful marriage. Whereas some people will blame feminism as a home-breaker, sometimes it has nothing to do with the woman and more to do with the kind of man the lady chooses to marry.